让座

2010年11月10日 | 标签:

在我最极端的15至18岁这个阶段,出门,下雨是不打伞的,乘车是不坐座的。现在好些了,下大雨还是打伞了,乘车时,空位多,还是坐下的

下雨要打伞,是听我师兄劝的,有一次一起出门,雨不大,我们都没带伞,他拿个包挡雨。头上并不富裕的师兄很认真地说:现在空气污染厉害,多酸雨,还是挡一下吧,淋了雨,第二天早上发现头发掉的厉害。可我无所谓,每次理发,师傅还要拼命给我打薄一点,嫌我的头发太多太厚

我上班的每天,很早要乘公车去地铁站,公车很空,只有2站的车程,我还是坐下了,主要是太空了,没必要站着,我已经不是18岁了。地铁上的人要多些,多是赶着上班的。我在地铁上有20分钟的时间,可以看一小会儿书。年纪大了,舍不得这点时间 :)

地铁上有人打瞌睡(不少),有人吃早餐(很少),还有女生在简单的化妆(偶尔),但几乎天天有和我一样读书的人,我很喜欢这些人,我想他们也不讨厌我。偶尔我在地铁上会思考一些简单的问题,比如今天我就构思现在写的:《让座》

我评断一个人有时很简单,比如我要在公共交通工具上看到甲给乙让座了,我就认为甲肯定是个好人。如果丙不是“老弱孕残幼”,还占着专门给“老弱孕残幼”预留得座位,不给面前的“老弱孕残幼”让座的话,那丙就是个坏人。而那些尽管坐着普通座位也不让座的,虽算不上坏人,但肯定不是好人

可我几乎天天都能看到年轻力壮的人占着“老弱孕残幼”的座位,真让我失望。那个位子我是远远躲开的

每当看到好人让座时,我总是心生一番敬意。如果她要是个漂亮女生的话,我会爱死她的

在我眼里,让座有2个境界:

1) 让了座,就站在原座旁边。如果那人提前下的话,继续坐
2) 让了座,别人感谢时,就说:不客气,我马山要下车。然后站在车门口,其实不一定马上下车。主要避免对方产生过多的不安。(我一般会采取这个方式)

有时让座前,内心会做一番斗争:让还是不让?当然这种情况多发生在长途车上,剩下的5、6个小时,怎么办?当然,如果对方是孕妇或带孩子的或很老的人,我还是会让的,那种情形下,你实在坐不下去,时时刻刻都是煎熬。这时我会安慰自己,站着有什么关系,平时上班,一站就是一整天,还跑来跑去,不也没关系吗

我经常乘车,由于动车和高铁,这段路程就是站着,也最多两个小时。我很喜欢坐在干净的靠窗的座位,安静的阅读或写点东西。当然最好大家都有座。如果车程超过5个小时,我一般会买卧铺,那儿人少,安静,其实也是内心深处的一种逃避,因为这样我可以不必让座

按理说,我这个年纪是不会有人给我让座的,可真的发生过一次。记得好像是5年前的一个冬天,那天心情特好,因为晚上我就可以回家了,我在那个离家很远很远的地方呆了近5个月。白天,我就乘公交上街买点东西,那天正好下雪,路上有点拥挤,公交上的人有点多,我一会儿有座,一会儿又起身让座。没想到,在我站着的时侯,一个大妈,拍了我的肩膀,笑着说:我马上要下车了,你坐我这儿吧,你已经让了3次了。我笑说:没关系的,我马上也要到了

被“让”一下的感觉

真好

那是我至今不忘的一次温暖回忆

  1. 民老头
    2010年11月11日11:47

    我现在很少坐公交,你这境界让我仰望不已.

  2. 小三
    2010年11月12日09:05

    我在公车上爱找最后一排最后的角落坐着,看前面的人也这样胡思乱想,而且想法和你差不多。。。
    最近碰到一条新开的双层巴士,上面那层都是坐长线的,人也少,看书的人还挺多的,而且大半是在手机看网页或是电子书的。。。
    我还有个发现,坐最后一角的时候,经常碰到有人手上有小小的《圣经》或是薄薄的《佛经》在暗暗有词的念。。。

  3. yanhu
    2010年11月12日09:53

    @民老头

    我哪有什么境界可言?

    真正有境界的,让座前不会有思想斗争的

    我就想,那些本该让座的青年,坐在那儿会不安吗?

  4. yanhu
    2010年11月12日10:01

    @小三

    我要是从始发站上车,也会选择坐最后一排

    因为这个位置基本不存在让座的困扰,行动不便的人不会走到最后面从而给你造成压力

    但这种行为说明一个问题:从内心深处,我也许想坐着

    在车上我看的都是些轻松的文字,比如最近在看山东画报出版社发行的《老照片》系列,在交通工具上看《圣经》,我还没这个境界

  5. yanjing
    2010年11月12日10:07

    yanhu老师果然极端,脑子里尽是些好人坏人的概念。从心理学的角度来分析,您这是停留在幼儿时期的非黑即白的幼稚观念~哈哈

  6. yanhu
    2010年11月12日10:50

    @yanjing

    哎,好久不见

    尽管上我表面对人宽容,但内心里还是有喜恶的

    我真的认为那些给人让座的人是善良的

    如果有机会,我一定会把他/她们视为朋友

    不多说了,马上去车站,下午回家 :)

  7. 12345
    2010年11月12日15:11

    想起一件事。前几天带宝宝去一个地方,站了十多分钟也没出租车,索性上了公共汽车,车不太挤,抱着她晃挺危险的。我就蹲下来抓着宝宝,那两站路正好是闹市区,站站停停,我特狼狈地抓她还得保持平衡,那时突然很气愤,很想走到坐在专座的人前让她们让位子(一个在打PSP,一个在看电话,一个在看风景,都是年轻女性),不过还是忍了。我后来还想,平常我带孩子不做公汽的一个原因就是不想给别人添麻烦,比如乘务员要喊小心啊,别人让座啊之类,怎么那天真没人让座我还不高兴了呢?话说我其实有没有权利,或者人家又义务从那个位子上让起来呢?

  8. 何者
    2010年11月12日16:54

    以前坐公车的时候,干脆就不想坐,总得让的,麻烦,不过有次气的够呛,让一老太太,旁边一民工型的一屁股挪了上去就不下来了。。。

  9. yanhu
    2010年11月15日18:29

    @12345

    据我观察

    年轻女性让座的真的不多

    有年轻男性让座的,也有中年女性让座的

    我们这儿的部分公交还保留售票员

    遇到确实该有个座位,却站着的

    售票员有时会从坐者中挑一个,要求其让座(候选的一般都是年轻的男性)

    我没有看到这种情况下,还有人占座不让的

  10. yanhu
    2010年11月17日18:34

    @何者

    (前天晚上回复了上一条后,我就无法通过教育网登陆泡网了,昨天上了一天班,今天中午才下班,回来发现可以登陆了)

    你肯定是个善良的人

    ===

    但怎么说呢?你提到了“民工”这个敏感的词

    他们来到城市,做着城里人不愿从事的辛苦活,拿着和付出不成比例的收入(甚至有的还拿不到收入),其“举止”和“穿着”在人群中很是显眼

    对这个特殊的群体,我的感觉很特别

    他们的现状不是他们的错,他们的出身使他们从小就不能接受良好的教育,先天丧失很多机会,他们的利益没有人代言,他们任人剥削,这是国家的罪

    我从没看到过有人给他们让座,包括老民工

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