邂逅

2010年8月8日 | 标签:

暂时不写离别,因为这两天的我还不想伤感,没那个状态。关键是,长这么大,历经过太多的离别,里面又有很多生死离别,那是因为工作的原因,个个都很凄绝,不愿去重拾。那就听风华老师的,写重逢。

不,我不但要写重逢,还要写那种邂逅式的重逢,那感觉是事先约定的重逢所无法比及的,没有伪饰,强求不得。邂逅时对视的刹那,是人生最妙不可言的瞬间,它是无数次随机事件在岁月的长河里反复碰撞后产生的一丝稍纵即逝的火花;如果那是一份礼物,那肯定是偏爱你的上帝送出的。人生因邂逅而美。

先写个与男人的邂逅:

11年前,夏天,我和妻子刚结婚后乘火车去东北她家,在卧铺上,车到南京,晚点了,为了追时间,停的比原定的短,没一会儿就发车了。但就这提前发车,却导致了一个意外的重逢。

只见车一动,车厢内有个男人就嚷道:怎么就停这么一会儿,我还没下车呢!

我和妻子一愣,这声音怎么这么熟悉?顺着声音望去,妈呀,原来那个男的是我们大学时的遗传学老师。虽然妻子比我高一个年级,但他都给我们上过课,因为他上课贼能扯,学生们都喜欢他,即使从不点名,上座率也很高,经常不上课的我也慕名亲临。我以前的博客里曾介绍过他。

原来他妻子也是东北人,暑假回老家。他是送妻子上车的,没想到车停的这么短,没下去。不得不在车上呆2个小时坐到蚌埠再下车折回来。

当然,我和妻子上前介绍了一下自己;当然,他不认识我们;当然,他很意外+高兴;当然,他对以前的学生能组成家庭表示祝福;当然,我们没有交流遗传学内容;当然,我们表达了对他的敬仰;当然,还聊了聊学校和以前的老师;当然,2个小时的时间过得很快。

你看,如果车准点,如果他不嚷,如果他上课不风趣,如果他妻子不是东北人,如果不是坐这节车厢,如果他不送妻子上车,如果我妻子不是东北人,如果我们没坐这节车厢,就不会有这次邂逅,好像少一个条件都不行,巧吧。

再写个与女人诡异的邂逅:

硕士时,我老师在我这一届带2个学生,一个比我小不少的女生和我。我和她做不同的课题,平时交往不多,她大多时侯是比较严肃的,我也从来没对她动过念头,也就是很正常的同学关系。但有一天,我们发生了一次冲突,很让我意外。那天开课题汇报会,这是一个定期要开的会,每个同学上台用PPT汇报近期的工作进展,导师可以通过此举分析你最近有没有偷懒。当然,上台的学生不止我们2个,我导师直接和间接管了不少学生,统统都得上台遛一圈。

可是那天导师因故迟到,学生们都在会议室等着。闲聊时,我和她为了一件小事争了起来,因为人多,双方估计为了面子,都没让步的意思,争执不断升级。我这人有点不好,就是不管占不占理,反正嘴皮子不能输给人家。经过长期锻炼,往往一打嘴仗,没几个能占我便宜。这女生还有点嫩,说不过我,被我驳得彻底完败,当众趴在桌上哭了起来。这下形势突变,我也慌了神,没料到女生们最后还有这一招,不带这么玩的啊。立马在师兄师弟师姐师妹的指责下,道歉认错,可她还是哭个没完,没有妥协的迹象。你看把我给急得,这要是给导师看到怎么办?大家一起哄她,我就差抱着哄了。几分钟后,终于停下来,我也松了口气,好在导师还没来。

通过这件事,我总结了三点教训:(1)以后少跟女生打嘴仗;(2)就是打,也要适可而止,要给女生留点面子,特别是在公共场合;(3)万一对方崩溃、哭了,那得放下架子,立即哄,怎么哄都不过分,否则后果不堪设想。

故事还没开始呢。

毕业后,我换了学校和导师,她继续当我前任导师的学生。我俩也从不联系,2年多没见,似乎我也从没想到过她。

去年10月,我参加一个亚太地区的学术会议,刚去的那天傍晚,我和师兄坐在会议中心大厅拐角的沙发上聊天。突然,从前排背对着我的沙发上,传来一个熟悉的温柔的缓缓的声音:yanhu,是你啊?我听到这个声音就知道是你。

我一听,当时就懵了,猛一抬头,光线又不是很好,有点晕,仿佛我突然处在另一个时间轴上,2秒钟没缓过劲,又定睛瞪了2秒钟,MY GOD,原来那个暗中笑对我的女人是当年被我气哭的女生,变样了,长大了。当然,我喜形于色;当然,我和师兄拜拜了,陪她说话去了。其间不得不偷偷怀疑了一下,难道真有命运,安排我们如此相遇。

开会的3天,我们天天躲在最后,腻在一块儿聊天,也不听上面讲什么。同学3年加起来也没这3天讲的话多,真是一段美好的回忆。会议结束后,我罕见地应她之邀,合了一张影。

你看我们,离别无一点痛苦,但邂逅依然美妙,多好。

  1. qizi
    2010年8月8日19:07

    这怎么全是马赛克啊····

  2. yanhu
    2010年8月8日19:10

    @qizi

    那是有意的 :)

  3. yanjing
    2010年8月8日19:45

    哈哈哈,yanhu老师v5~
    对你的凄绝的生离死别的故事很感兴趣啊,啥时候讲一讲吧

  4. fenghua
    2010年8月8日22:34

    哈哈。。在NANA的博客留言时,刚写完重逢,就想到了邂逅,但一想,已经在一篇博文后留了两次言了,再说显得啰索,就没再说。。你的邂逅都有意思。。但马赛克是中国艺术进步最大的障碍,也被你用上了。。

  5. 身是客
    2010年8月8日22:56

    天吶,為啥是馬賽客啊,讓我們看真面目吧,咱們嘴嚴,肯定不告訴你太座知。

  6. xb
    2010年8月9日00:32

    字太多,木看。图好玩。哈哈。。。

  7. yanhu
    2010年8月9日09:57

    @yanjing

    那些故事少听为好,很让人悲伤的

    你见过那些知道自己即将离开这个世界的孩子吗?还有那些不知道自己即将离开的孩子?

    他们甚至有时还会安慰自己的家人不要难过

    等有感觉的时候,我会写的

  8. yanhu
    2010年8月9日10:06

    @fenghua

    不要总是把马赛克想歪了

    它可是已知最古老的装饰艺术之一

    译自MOSAIC,原意是用镶嵌方式拼接而成的细致装饰。早期居住在洞穴里的人们,为了让地板更加坚固耐用,采用各种石头铺设地面,最早的马赛克就是在这一基础上衍生发展起来的

  9. yanhu
    2010年8月9日10:11

    @身是客

    你要让我看到你的真面目,我就让你看我的真面目

    在茫茫人海中,我同你身边路过的人没什么两样

    我家那位从来不干涉我的私生活

    但这个地方我是不敢告诉她的 :)

  10. yanhu
    2010年8月9日10:15

    @xb

    现在的女生怎么都这么懒? :)

    我写都不觉得累,你看还觉得累?就占用你几分钟的时间

  11. 民老头
    2010年8月9日11:11

    你家那位真好.
    泡网里,有好多夫妻同泡的.我估计,有时候,他们肯定不敢讲真话.

  12. 龙二
    2010年8月9日15:23

    听说,现在有马赛克还原技术,再怎么上玛,都能解开。。。

    对了,你在我那儿的留言,我都能看到呀,怎么你自己反到看不到?

  13. yanhu
    2010年8月9日18:36

    @民老头

    谢谢

    我家那位确实挺好,对我了解很深,知道我性格逆反,如果管的严的话,我就对着干,所有就放手不管

    我不知道泡网里有这么多鸳鸯,干嘛呢?平时天天生活在一起都腻的慌,还要上一样的网

    我觉得应该命个作文题叫《说句心里话》

  14. yanhu
    2010年8月9日18:45

    @龙二

    听说过有这个技术,但我没找到。我觉得就是有这技术,还原成原始图片的清晰程度还是做不到的。

    各位有兴趣的,可以拿我这张图片试试手,弄好就贴出来,我不找你们麻烦。如果还原后觉得这个男生非常的难看,那就别贴了,那肯定是解码技术的原因 :)

    我现在也能看到了,我才发现你的留言是按时间倒序排的,我留言后,按常规盯着下面看,所以没看到。自己没发现,还怪人家博客设置有问题,难堪啊。

  15. YU
    2010年8月12日16:55

    瞧您这那啥啥的劲头儿,觉得您真就不太像金牛,特像摩羯,真的。不好意思,俺犯了经验主义错误。其实,星座+血型+人的成长环境+家教是息息相关的,性格塑造缺一不可。

  16. yanhu
    2010年8月12日20:13

    @YU

    我不得不像女生那样去查了下摩羯座的特点,确实有相似的地方,不知你们是怎么记住12个星座的特点啊

    再透露我的血型吧

    B型

    我从小就觉得血型和性格有关,我决定关于B型血的性格的描述和我吻合极了,尽管有人说这是伪科学。

    看看这个吧,我是骄傲的B型血:

    http://www.huaren.us/dispbbs.asp?boardid=331&Id=715153&page=1&star=1

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